I can't remember the last time I posted a legit "lovey-dovey" entry on here. But, for those of you who have been around since the beginning, you know that Em has fallen for her fair share of men. Today, there's a new one. And by my calculations, this is the first real crush I've had since Movie Boy back in college (three years ago!).
So, to keep things short and sweet, there's this guy who comes to the library a lot. We talk a bit, and he comes to my programs. We're friends on Facebook, but he's rarely online, so I can't use this as a consistent means of connection. I've "known" him for about two years. We've not hung out outside of the library, so I can't say that I know a lot about him. I do know that he's very sweet, a little shy, gets along well with everyone, and is Catholic, which is perhaps the biggest deal for me.
I've been trying to figure out how to talk to him more. But, I'm usually busy (since I'm at work) and I give him about as much time as I can muster. But, I'm going to try to spend more time with him when I see him, try to break the ice, and try to get him to talk a bit more. He's not so shy that he doesn't talk, but he seems like the kind of guy who might have trouble taking the first step to initiate anything. From what I see of him online, he likes to keep busy, but it doesn't appear that he has a lot of super-close friends or that he's dating anyone. Mostly spends time with family (that's how I am, too). I don't mind initiating things, and have asked guys out before, but I want to stay professional (nothing professional about asking out patrons!) and honestly, I would like to be the one pursued instead of the one doing the pursuing. You know? I asked Movie Boy out years ago. I wish it would have been the other way around.
Long story short: Emmy likes a guy. Not sure if he feels the same way about me (although, it's not as though I've been super-obvious about it on my end, either). If you have any suggestions for moving things along, then feel free to share. If not, stay tuned, and hopefully I'll have a little more to tell you about in a few weeks.
So, to keep things short and sweet, there's this guy who comes to the library a lot. We talk a bit, and he comes to my programs. We're friends on Facebook, but he's rarely online, so I can't use this as a consistent means of connection. I've "known" him for about two years. We've not hung out outside of the library, so I can't say that I know a lot about him. I do know that he's very sweet, a little shy, gets along well with everyone, and is Catholic, which is perhaps the biggest deal for me.
I've been trying to figure out how to talk to him more. But, I'm usually busy (since I'm at work) and I give him about as much time as I can muster. But, I'm going to try to spend more time with him when I see him, try to break the ice, and try to get him to talk a bit more. He's not so shy that he doesn't talk, but he seems like the kind of guy who might have trouble taking the first step to initiate anything. From what I see of him online, he likes to keep busy, but it doesn't appear that he has a lot of super-close friends or that he's dating anyone. Mostly spends time with family (that's how I am, too). I don't mind initiating things, and have asked guys out before, but I want to stay professional (nothing professional about asking out patrons!) and honestly, I would like to be the one pursued instead of the one doing the pursuing. You know? I asked Movie Boy out years ago. I wish it would have been the other way around.
Long story short: Emmy likes a guy. Not sure if he feels the same way about me (although, it's not as though I've been super-obvious about it on my end, either). If you have any suggestions for moving things along, then feel free to share. If not, stay tuned, and hopefully I'll have a little more to tell you about in a few weeks.
I found your blog by complete accident while Googling random things, and saw this post. Don't let the feeling of "wishing he would pursue" get in the way. Just ask him out if you like him. I'm a guy, and let me tell you, we can put up plenty of roadblocks in our head to prevent us from "pursuing" a girl even if we like them. If he says yes, then cool! Date! If he says no, don't worry about it, continue to be friends! Anyway, just some advice from a happily married man who spent 3 years convincing himself to ask a girl out, and then married her :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by, Anonymous! And I appreciate the advice. There has been a bit of a lull between us lately, so I've been thinking about making a move myself. Your advice is very timely :)
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