So, There's This Guy...

I can't remember the last time I posted a legit "lovey-dovey" entry on here. But, for those of you who have been around since the beginning, you know that Em has fallen for her fair share of men.  Today, there's a new one.  And by my calculations, this is the first real crush I've had since Movie Boy back in college (three years ago!).

So, to keep things short and sweet, there's this guy who comes to the library a lot.  We talk a bit, and he comes to my programs.  We're friends on Facebook, but he's rarely online, so I can't use this as a consistent means of connection.  I've "known" him for about two years.  We've not hung out outside of the library, so I can't say that I know a lot about him.  I do know that he's very sweet, a little shy, gets along well with everyone, and is Catholic, which is perhaps the biggest deal for me.

I've been trying to figure out how to talk to him more.  But, I'm usually busy (since I'm at work) and I give him about as much time as I can muster.  But, I'm going to try to spend more time with him when I see him, try to break the ice, and try to get him to talk a bit more.  He's not so shy that he doesn't talk, but he seems like the kind of guy who might have trouble taking the first step to initiate anything.  From what I see of him online, he likes to keep busy, but it doesn't appear that he has a lot of super-close friends or that he's dating anyone.  Mostly spends time with family (that's how I am, too).  I don't mind initiating things, and have asked guys out before, but I want to stay professional (nothing professional about asking out patrons!) and honestly, I would like to be the one pursued instead of the one doing the pursuing.  You know?  I asked Movie Boy out years ago.  I wish it would have been the other way around.

Long story short: Emmy likes a guy.  Not sure if he feels the same way about me (although, it's not as though I've been super-obvious about it on my end, either).  If you have any suggestions for moving things along, then feel free to share.  If not, stay tuned, and hopefully I'll have a little more to tell you about in a few weeks.

Library Boy

So, there is this cute guy who comes to the library and attends my programming every month.  I've had my eye on him for some time now, and we talk a bit, but I don't want to come across as too forceful (since the librarian shouldn't be making her patrons uncomfortable).  But, anyways, we talk a bit when he comes in, and I've really enjoyed our brief conversations (I still have to work, and he seems a bit shy).  Well, anyways, my coworker told me that he asked for my full name today.  (I think someone might be looking me up on Facebook....)

Fingers crossed, lovely readers!  I would love to get to the "let's grab a coffee" stage of things with him someday.  He seems like a really nice guy.

What to Do?

So, I tend to overthink things, and basically everyone who follows this blog knows this.  Anyways, there's this guy who comes to some of my library programs--I have an ongoing event series that he always attends.  Real nice guy.  We sometimes talk, but never for any real length of time.  I try to engage him in longer conversations, but it seems like we're always on different pages--when he wants to talk, I'm busy, and when I want to talk, he seems distracted and has to cut out of the conversation early.

Unfortunately, I can't give 100% attention to him because I have to take care of set-up and clean-up for my programs, and keep things in order.  But, I would like to talk to him more.  The thing is, I don't want him to think that I'm coming on to him, because I can't figure out how I feel about him.  I've creeped on him on Facebook, and I'm happy to see that he's single.  The thought of him finding a girlfriend bothers me, so I suppose there is some emotion there.  But, I just don't think I want a boyfriend right now.  I don't know.  Honestly, I haven't really thought seriously about a guy since Movie Boy (and that was when I graduated in 2013).

My mom pointed out that I should try to engage this library cutie in more conversation.  Which, is easier said than done (see above) since we seem to be on different pages.  I surprised myself with how irritated that comment made me.  I'm trying to engage him in conversation, and I'm trying to be nice and friendly, but I have other stuff I have to do, too, and I can't afford to just hang out and talk all night.  Now, if we went out somewhere, I would be free to talk, but I don't want to make him think it was a date.

The problem is that I don't know how I feel.  Part of me obviously feels something, but the other half of me is pretty guarded, and wants to get to know him better before I dive into anything.  I guess, too, my pride is bruised, since I thought I was doing things right, but clearly, my mom thinks I'm not making enough effort.  What do you guys think?

Random Survey: Emmy's Results

Hey Everyone! I want to say thanks for your eagerness to respond to my survey about your "datable other", and don't worry, I'm going to wait a little longer before posting the collected data, so those of you who haven't responded still have a chance to do so :) Because I already got a few people to respond, and Fabulea asked to hear my opinions (thanks!), I decided to tell you my opinions on my "datable other"...

1. Hair color: I usually go for dark-haired guys; dark brown or black. But, I've had crushes on blondes before.

2. Eye color: I love brown and hazel eyes; but recently, I've discovered a hidden love of green! (both Willoughby and Odysseus have green eyes)

3. Height: I'm short, so for a guy to be shorter than me, he'd have to be really short :P But, this also works in my favor, as most guys that I like are taller than me. I don't want someone too tall, but I like a little bit of height.

4. Sense of Style: I like a man who is all his own. I don't really care for the cookie-cutter characters. I prefer a man who is original (potentially a bit artsy) and not afraid to show off his uniqueness, just like me ;)

5. Pale or dark: I almost always prefer darker men. Latino tan is wonderful. I'm naturally very pale, but I'm totally attracted to darker, guys, and have found myself with a crush on several African American guys in the past. So, yeah...Tan or darker.

6. Personality: I'd have to say, sweet, silly, and cuddly :")

7. Age: About my age or a little older than me.

8. Intelligence: Smart is good, but not too smart that he makes me feel dumb :P I would say someone who is of about the same intelligence level as me.

9. Maturity: Appropriate for his age.

10. Wants kids: Honestly, I'm not thinking about that just yet :P

Thanks guys! Have a wonderful day!

A Random Survey...

Over the past few days, I have been talking to people about what attracts us to our "datable" other. So, I thought I would toss out this little survey, and see what you guys thought!

All you have to do is post your answers in comments. (this is completely about your preferences in a datable other...so, there's no right or wrong answer. If this gains enough interest, I might even post my own answers on here as well :D

Survey:

1. Hair color:

-blonde

-brown

-black

-red

-bald

-other (please specify)

2. Eye color:

-blue

-brown

-green

-hazel

-grey

-other (please specify)

3. Height:

-taller than me

-much taller than me

-shorter than me

-much shorter than me

-my height

-doesn't matter

4. Sense of Style:

-emo

-sporty

-intellectual/nerd

-goth

-punk

-casual

-all his/her own

-none at all

-other (please specify)

5. Pale or dark?

-pale

-dark

-medium

-other (please specify)

6. Personality:

-sweet

-silly

-dominating/possessive

-serious

-intellectual

-shy

-cuddly

7. Age:

-about my age

-older than me

-younger than me

8. Intelligence:

-dumb as a rock

-slightly dumb

-average intelligence

-smart

-very smart

-it does not matter to me

9. Maturity:

-still a little kid

-stately, mature individual

-appropriate for his/her age

-slightly childish

10. Wants kids?

-yes

-no

-LOTS AND LOTS OF KIDS!!!!!

-perhaps?

-what?? I'm not thinking THAT far ahead!

Thanks so much guys!